Snowed in by ....snow

It has been snowy, rainy, icy, slippery, cold, warm, windy, crazy! The latest weather here in western Montana.

We have been just chillin'(no pun intended!), enjoying one anothers company. Coming upon our 5th wedding anniversary, on Dec 20th!

I remember that night, it was cold and rainy. Our friends were here from CA, Kim and Paul and Don and Cindy, both from San Diego, my friends from long ago. Both of them were my "approval meter" when Marty and I started to get to know each other. The Berry's were up north to visit their nephew, so we met at Olive Garden in Vancouver. We had a very nice dinner and they just LOVED Marty (whats not to like???). And the Lyles, had met him the summer prior, when we went to CA for a visit of my kids and friends, and for them to meet the man I planned on marrying. EVERYONE loved him, his easy going demeanor, his gentleness, and loving kindness, unselfish attitude. We found out a lot about each other. It was mostly wonderful, we had a few little bumps here and there, but we worked through it with our friends' help. We started a little journal then, we would write a little note to each other each night. It was great, we learned alot about each other that way too. I am also fortunate, that when my hubby feels something is amiss, HE will say to me, lets talk about it! Lots of guys, wait for the woman to say something. Or they say, "Nope, everything is great" even if it isn't. But we are solid, and more so each day and year. We have our issues, we have our disagreements and fights, we have our frustrations, where you just want to hit the wall or throw in the towel, THAT IS NORMAL!!!! If you don't disagree somewhat or have little tiffs, on rare occasion, something is wrong! We are not robots, and when a relationship is going along perfect and you never disagree, means someone is leading the other is following in a very unhealthy way. There is nothing wrong with having an opinion, or a thought of your own, if you can share it with love and respect. But if one says" we should do this, or go here or there" and the other says "ok, whether they want to or not" just not to rock the boat,eventually they will resent the person making all the decisions...

I love the fact that he has tried to put me first in everything, and I try to put him first in everything, especially we try to put God first in ALL things! We say a little prayer at night, before we retire. We try to say grace before each meal. We try to listen or read God's word. We seek others that can build us up and we can build them up, in Christian love. Commitment to each other no matter what! We are so there, and it is so wonderful. We have both changed to mirror and reflect each other, it is amazing....like we think and say sometimes the same things...without knowing what the other is thinking! Even when we got married, we went through pre-marital counseling. (I believe that EVERY couple should do this, whether its your first or second marriage). It really was helpful showing us what we thought about things like , money, sharing jobs in the marriage, cooking, child rearing, sex, etc....two tests, about 100 questions long, each and then the two persons take them separate from each other, and then they are sent into a company that rates the answers in percentages of your chances of making a good marriage. We rated a 97%. the only thing we disagreed on was child rearing, but fortunately, we are past that part now, so not a big issue. But at our wedding, the priest that presided over our wedding, said that we showed him "how much we loved God and each other, and how those tests had proved we were a good match". A match made in Heaven. I really believe so.....